Love at first sight: Lust or infatuation?
The reality behind love, at first sight, needs to explore and is a topic of debate?
Love, at first sight, can be seen equally in both sexes and is more common in teenagers and youngsters as compared to the middle ages.
But can be look in middle-age persons also.
Love, at first sight, is a personal experience in which a person feels an instant, extreme romantic attraction for a stranger at first sight.
Reality: Love, at first sight, is the love when a male and female meet for the first time.
Or, when they look at each other for the first time.
People think love, at first sight, is actually true love but that is not loving. It is basically physical attraction.
It may be an attraction towards beauty, personality or just the opposite sex.
Many people discuss and say that when we first meet a good-looking individual of opposite sex we develop sexual desire or want to have sex with that person. This is only attraction, not love which is a reality.
Love is not a game of one day, it is a continuous process and increases day by day, while love at first sight usually ends in a few days.
It does not increase day by day until and unless true love develops. It may gradually reduce as physical attraction diminishes or ends.
Reality: In arranged marriage
Even in arranged marriages boy and girl meet once or twice before marriage or sometimes parents fix the marriage and boy and girl never meet before marriage.
In such a condition, in the initial days after marriage, there occurs physical or sexual attraction more or sometimes only sexual attraction remains.
A love between couples develops slowly after some time.
And as the duration of married life increases in the same way love also increases day by day.
However, it is true that sex is an integral and important part of successful married life with many other factors like faith, love, and affection.
In married life, sex is a part of love and peak of love.
Without sex chances of a successful marriage, life is minimum.
When there is some misunderstanding between couples or they are angry with each other, sex between husband and wife is the only thing which brings them closer and for a particular period they become one.
Later on, after sex between partners, all differences end and they become as one entity, no one can separate them. Having a high testosterone level is responsible for love at first sight. The testosterone level remains high in teenagers and youngsters.
The high testosterone level in teenagers and youngsters is a normal and a natural physiological condition. It’s not pathological.
The sex drive or sexual craving in both men and women is fuels by testosterone. Three factors are responsible for falling in love.
One is to like the other person’s physical appearance, the other is to find his or her personality desirable.
And the third one is you have to feel that the other person likes you.
People may feel they have fall in love quickly, even when they have known each other for some time.
Love is a chemical attraction between two people, influences by environmental and cultural factors.
It’s common now
A live-in relationship is common in our society nowadays and socially accepts to a certain extent. A live-in relationship usually starts from love at first sight.
When male and female meet first time, they attract each other physically and sexually. They develop love at first sight. Some of them try to test this love at first sight.
For that, they start living together in a live-in relationship. After a particular time in a live-in relationship, some of them develop true love and they do marriage and start a family, some of them start a family without marriage.
Many of them who have first sight love, even after living in a live-in relationship never develop love and affection.
In such persons love at first sight ends and sometimes takes a very ugly form. Male and female may fight very badly like abusing each other, manhandling, later on, charges of molestation and even rape are possible.
Love, at first sight, is not love, it’s actually lusting at first sight. Experiencing the feeling of love is a long-term process, thus it cannot be feel immediately.
However, lust, at first sight, is real. In lust, a person is complete focuses on looks and body and show interest in having sex, not in having conversations.
True love is pure, deep, selfless and full of positive emotions. True love is the love which a person has with his or her next progeny, husband, and wife who have a happy and healthy family life and have true love.
In a male-female relationship, true love develops and increases in the same way. Physical and sexual attraction decreases day by day.
As there is a thin line between love and lust.
In the same way, love, at first sight, is not true love.
And there is also a thin line between true love and love at first sight. But most of the time a person remains in delusion. This is a myth and many youngsters face big problem due to love at first sight.
People who develop love, at first sight, are usually flirtatious by nature; they usually get bored with one partner of love at first sight very soon and change partners very frequently.
Some of them cheat the partner in the name of love at first sight.
Changing partners becomes their habit, they are never satisfied after changing many partners and ultimately become frustrated.
Only a few people after love, at first sight, develop true love
And after a long period of courtship and get married and live a happy, healthy and successful married life.
–Dr.Susan Winter
http://www.theinsidertales.com/the-hardest-goodbye/
